Ever had a fear of failure?
Great, then you understand what I mean.
Sometimes it happens, right? In fact, in my case, I am a positive person. Pity parties are not the way I usually spend my time.
But still, there are days when everything looks dark and hopeless. Then I tend to feel
Desperate because I feel like – I cannot do it. I cannot succeed in this blogging and online marketing stuff.
Sure enough, I could, if I had infinitely much time in my hand. But I don’t, and that’s the problem.
It puts time pressure on my shoulders, and I struggle to handle it.
Here we are now, at the beginning of a new year. And I feel like, “Aahhh… how to do it? Can I do it? Everybody else out there seems to succeed with a just snap of fingers. But me… Why is it so hard for ME?”
“Blogging is about writing. But writing… Why is it so difficult for me?
More than that, though. I blog in English but I am not a native English speaker. Needless to say, it makes things so much more complicated for me.
And I feel how that desperation is growing in me. It is growing and Growing and GROWING.
O boy, what a feeling!
Anyway, I must deal with that growing despair in me. So, either I can let myself sink into deeper misery and have a nice, private, pity party. Or I must find a way out somehow. Find a way to encourage and motivate myself.
I choose the latter one.
So, what is
The Fastest Way to Beat the Fear of Failure?
There are different ways to conquer it. But this is what I did. And it helped.
I said, “Haa. I have collected some motivational quotes just for moments like this one here. Quotes about perseverance, quotes about time management and then quotes about staying focused, about making mistakes, overcoming obstacles, etc. Which one do you want, Egon?”
I go to my website and open one of those posts.(link) And voila, the encouragement is beginning to flow into my veins.
You would be surprised how beautifully it worked. Try it out.
The very first quote sayd, “Without a struggle, there can be no progress.” – Frederick Douglass
Or the second one, “Doing the tough things sets winners apart from losers.” ― Stephen Richards
Wow… It’s like light coming in and beating the darkness out.
Or yet another one: “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeeded.” – Michael Jordan
It is encouraging, isn’t it?
I keep reading, and then, because I struggle with writing, that’s what I thought, “Mhm… What do they tell about writing? Let’s see.”
Do you know what I found?
I found that
Writing Is an Effort
I found some fascinating quotes about writers and writing. And as a blogger, you may find them interesting (and hopefully encouraging). So here we go. Let’s see some of them.
“A writer is someone for whom writing is more difficult than it is for other people.” ― Thomas Mann
Wow! So it’s not only me for whom writing is a difficult thing.
“Writing is really just a matter of writing a lot, writing consistently and having faith that you’ll continue to get better and better. Sometimes, people think that if they don’t display great talent and have some success right away, they won’t succeed. But writing is about struggling through and learning and finding out what it is about writing itself that you really love.” ― Laura Kasischke
Looks to me, writing is not that easy after all.
The next one is one of the best. Have a look!
“I am irritated by my own writing. I am like a violinist whose ear is true, but whose fingers refuse to reproduce precisely the sound he hears within.” – Gustave Flaubert
Exactly!!! I could not say it better. That is just the way I feel so often. It’s not that I cannot type. But my “fingers refuse to reproduce precisely the sound” I hear within.
That’s my problem. But see, it’s not only MY problem. Other writers seem to suffer from the same problem.
So maybe it is because we are mere human beings, isn’t it?
See the next one:
“The first draft of anything is shit.” – Ernest Hemingway
Hey! If Mr. Hemingway says it, can you expect to do it better? I don’t think so. So if he considers the first draft sh**, you and I should do the same.
„Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.“ – Les Brown
See! Here’s my problem. The problem is fear. Fear does not allow you to live your dreams.
So look at the next quote:
“Any man who keeps working is not a failure. He may not be a great writer, but if he applies the old-fashioned virtues of hard, constant labor, he’ll eventually make some kind of career for himself as writer.” – Ray Bradbury
“It took me fifteen years to discover I had no talent for writing, but I couldn’t give it up because by that time I was too famous.” – Robert Benchley
They’re encouraging, aren’t they? Yes, they are.
They tell you that even though the life is not a cakewalk, but neither snow nor sleet, bitter cold or sunny days matter to the man who does not give up.
What do you think? How do you beat a fear of failure in you? Leave your comments in the section below.